Watching newspapers and reports about kidnapped, abused kids is absolutely terrifying and disturbing for everybody. This also raises the concerns of parents and instills fear. Considering how common this crime has become, it is very important for parents to teach their children about the differences between good touch and bad touch. Parenting starts at home. This blog will help you to educate your children about the differences and how they should react in such situations.
Enlighten them about good touch and bad touch
Prevention starts at home. Hence, it is very important to have a conversation with your children. Teach your child about the different body parts. Feel comfortable in teaching them about how different touch feels. Show them real-time life situations. Educate them that bodies have different levels of security. For example: A pat on the head maybe acceptable but fondled in the private regions such as chest or buttock region is unacceptable.
Permit them the ownership of their body
Empower them to say NO. Inculcate in them the right to be the boss of their own body. They have the absolute choice to deny a handshake or hug if they do not want to. Ask them to not allow anybody to take pictures of them without the permission from you or your partner.
Teach them to fight back
As kids, they cannot do much to save themselves from such uncomfortable situations. But it is necessary for them to know that people would help them if they are in danger. Ask them to shout for help or run away from the place as fast as they can. Make sure your child does not stay alone and is always in the company of someone you trust wholeheartedly.
Develop a habit of talking daily with your kids about what happened in their school or park from morning to night. Encourage them to talk openly about anything and everything with you. If you find any changes in her/his behaviour ensure them that they can trust you and make sure they speak out their fears and insecurities. Ask them to trust their intuition. It is quite natural that children are scared of their parents and feel shy in communicating certain things. Build a level of trust and comfort and emphasise on the importance of sharing everything with parents.
Make your child aware of child abuse
Today with both parents working, children are often left in the care of babysitters or caretakers. Do not shy away from mentioning the day to day happenings to your kids. It is your responsibility to educate your child about sexual violence. This does not mean, you will have to talk about stuff inappropriate to their age. Just let them know about the dangers prevailing around them and to be careful. Children are smart enough to find out themselves sooner or later. So it is better to teach your child about sex education rather than them learning it themselves through wrong sources.
As parents, it is our responsibility to teach our kids to differentiate between good and bad things in the world. If you find symptoms such as doing poorly in school, over maturely behaviour, looking dull or uninterested, bed wetting & thumb sucking suddenly or any behavioural change in your kid, sit down with them and have a talk. Keep calm and if possible, get the child medically examined by a doctor. In case of such incidents, do not restrict their freedom. The post trauma care phase, is a very delicate phase and should be handled with utmost care.